Friendship arises…when two or more… discover that they have in
common some insight or interest… [A}s Emerson said, Do you love
me? means Do you see the same truth? or at least Do you care about the
same truth? The man who agrees with us that some question, little
regarded by others, is of great importance can be our Friend….That is
why those pathetic people who simply “want friends” can never make any.
The very condition of having friends is that we should want something
else besides friends. Where the truthful answer to the question “Do you
see the same truth?” would be “I don’t care about the truth—I only want
[you to be my] friend,” no friendship can arise. Friendship must
be about somthing, even if it were only an enthusiasm for dominoes or
white mice. Those who have nothing can share nothing; those who are
going nowhere can have no fellow-travelers.” [CS Lewis, The Four Loves,
quoted in Keller, The Meaning of Marriage, 113-114]
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